It is being said that, when two elephants are fighting, the grass suffers. Same thing is applicable to families. When a husband and his wife are living as enemies, the children suffers a lot. There would always be a big difference between children trained in love by a husband and wife in love with each other, with those with parents who lives like cats and dogs.
Here is a story. Read and learn
Tom, an eleven year old boy, sat on the bed in his room watching a movie when majority of his mates are already on their way to school. He could hear the loud noises that were emerging from his parents room.
‘Stupid people’, he said to himself, ‘they are at it again; shouting at each other like dogs.’
Even though the noise was getting more and more intensed, Tom didn’t feel concerned, he didn't even raise a brow. In fact, as his parents keep raising their voices, he deliberately choose to feel more relaxed, because he know no one will come to check on him to spoil his little ‘enjoyment’.
Opposite his room, his parents were busying hurling abusive words at each other. This was neither new to Tom nor their neighbors in the street. His parents has actually successfully made it a daily routine of abusing each other before going to their respective places of work.
Tom's father is an irresponsible man who neither have time for his family nor care about their welfare. To make matters worst, he is a drunkard who leaves home as early as 7.30 am in the morning after having his dose of hot arguments with his wife, and return home drunk at midnight.
Tom's mother makes matters worst. She fell into the category of women who weren’t submissive to their husbands. In fact, it was the results of her actions that pushed her husband into irresponsibility. She was a woman who doesn’t have time to wash her husband’s clothes or clean the house. And whenever Tom's dad complained, she ask him if women are supposed to be slaves. She will ask him if he doesn't know the road to the laundry man shop, because she can't scrub clothes with her artificial fingers.
Also, Tom's mother doesn’t have time to cook at home for the family. And whenever her husband complains, she will get angry. She will claim to have been stressed out in her shop and can't still come to the house to cook. She will tell him to get food from restaurants, because, according to her, in foreign countries, that’s how things are being done. Then she will ask 'Are women suppose to be slaves?'
Everyday, Tom's mother leaves home early in the morning and return in the evening. Before going out of the house, she will drop a one thousand naira note for Tom, and will tell him to take care of himself. Then, off she goes- till evening when she will return again with junks gotten from eateries, as supper for herself and her son.
Tom's parents has never for once checked his notebooks to see how he was faring in school academically. Therefore, Tom utilized his parents’ negligence to become unserious.
He was the naughtiest pupil in his class. He had no respect for his teachers. He doesn’t read his book because he see reading as a kind of punishment. He prefer playing with his friends all day.
During exams period, he rarely feel alarmed because he know about other methods of passing examinations without reading. He always boast to his friends:
‘There are two ways of passing an exam- the right way and the left way. Intelligent students use the right way, while we smart students use the left way.’ And they all will break into laughter.
Tom is one of the students who solely depend on cheating to pass exams. In fact, his fellow unserious students tagged him ‘King Of Expo Carriers’.
Nevertheless, his ‘smartness’ do fail him at times. On several occassions, he’s being caught, and it will be inscribed in his report sheet that he cheated during exams.
His class teacher thought his parents would caution their son when they go through his report sheet and saw what he has written about Tom's bad behavoirs. But alas, he was wrong! Tom’s parents had never for once ask about his report sheet after an academic season is over.
Tom is the one that always open his results sheet. Whenever he saw where the teacher listed his bad behaviours and was asked to be cautioned by his parents, he will laugh heartily.
‘Stupid man’ he will muse to himself, ‘my parents doesn’t have time for all these'
HAVE YOU LEARN?
Imagine a young dude like the boy in our story, already spoilt at that age. What will become of him if he grows with that? And who are the primary cause? HIS PARENTS!!!
Thus, all parents should strive living in peace, if not for nothing, but for the sake of their children
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